Supporting ourselves through gender affirming care
A supportive series for trans and gender expansive folx waiting for gender affirming care
This is a new, ongoing series I’m starting on moving through something that’s very real for so many trans and gender expansive folx: Waiting for gender affirming care. It’s something I’ve gone through personally, something I’ve supported many of my clients through, and something that, let’s face it, can be emotionally and physically excruciating.
As trans and gender expansive folx, we should not have to jump through the hoops we do in order to receive the care we deserve. And yet, the realities of the current political climate make it a part of many folx’s gender journeys.
Through this series, I’ll guide you through somatic and IFS-informed practices to help you feel supported during the hard moments, help you access joy and hope, and help your system feel understood.
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**Coming soon: A self-guided course based on this series that includes videos and reflection prompts
What You'll Learn
Each part includes a short written article explaining a topic, followed by a link to a recorded guided practice.
Part 01Intro and parts mapping
Intro: A short video explaining what this series is about and who it’s for.
Article: Mapping out our parts: An IFS inspired parts mapping exercise to help you get in touch with your own unique system of parts
Part 02Offering support to your parts
The article: Learn how to slow down and offering presence to the parts of you that are struggling during the waiting period for gender affirming care
The practice: I guide you through a process of saying hello to the parts that are present right here, right now, drawing on the supports of your community and your transcestors so that you feel what’s holding you as you hold your parts.
Part 03Medical gatekeeping
The article: Getting real about medical gatekeeping and how to support ourselves through it
The practice: You’ll be guided to slow down, get in touch with what arises when encountering medical gatekeeping, listening to those parts, and from there finding an affirmation your system needs in the moment to be seen and understood. I’ll invite you to repeat the affirmation three times, and notice the shifts that occur in your system as you do so.
Part 04Subtle dysphoria
The article: This week, I’m talking about subtle dysphoria and our own internal gatekeeping parts. (If your dysphoria is loud, stay tuned, I’ll be publishing a part on that experience soon.)
This part talks about the more subtle kind of dysphoria. Instead of an avalanche, it feels like a slowly dripping faucet. Instead of a thunderstorm, it feels like a quiet rumble in the background. Sound relatable? You’re not alone.
Part 05On the days you don’t feel trans enough
The article: Today, I’m offering some tools on how to be with yourself on the days you don’t feel trans enough.
The practice: A guided practice to support yourself and your parts when you don’t feel like you belong, or you don’t feel trans enough.
Part 06On the days you can’t be in your body
The article: As trans folx, there are some days and some seasons when we can’t be in our bodies. Some days and some seasons, we need the permission for that to be ok. And on those days and seasons, we still deserve safe points of connection to hold us, even if it’s not inside our own bodies.
The recorded practice: A guided practice to help you find safe points of connection outside of your body.
Queer Ecology: Embodying trees
Part 07The practice: This week’s T4T meditation is a guided practice in which you connect to and embody a tree. When we embody trees, we embody queerness in all of its forms. We embody care and community. And we embody home.
The practice: A guided practice that invites you to embrace queer ecology and embody a tree.
More parts coming soon.
The entire collection
Access my entire collection of T4T Meditations here